Another great post by Milo Yiannopoulos @nero.
“Across the generations,” she says, “I see that people can’t get enough of each other – if and only if they can have each other at a distance, in amounts they can control. I call it the Goldilocks effect. Not too close, not too far, just right.”
When you ask young people what they like about email, Facebook and Twitter, as Turkle has done for years, they tend to say two things: firstly, they like the asychronicity of online communication, and, secondly, they like being able to control what they’re going to say. In other words, we’re all hiding from each other, even though we’re apparently more connected than ever before.
To put it another way, the richness and complexity of human relationships is streamlined into manipulable communication by the internet: reduced to a series of prepared interactions within which we can present ourselves as something different from that which we are. Something prettier. Something smarter. Something we can control.
As Sherry Turkle points out in her TED talk, it’s only by really knowing others that we can have any hope of coming to know ourselves, and it’s the hard road to honest self-reflection that defines adolescence more than any other journey upon which young people, especially, embark.
“If we don’t teach our children how to be alone, they will only know how to be lonely.”